Wisdom is different from learning. When we learn, we absorb new information into our memetic environment. Wisdom is gained by letting go of the ideas and beliefs that we previously learned that are no longer serving us. Wisdom is gained by deliberate practice—challenging our old habits and thought patterns and being open to, and even, inviting opposing ideas and new perspectives into our lives. Personal growth requires both learning and wisdom. Learning without wisdom is like baking a cake and not allowing yourself to enjoy a slice. How will you practice wisdom today?
Wisdom comes from reflection, awareness and practice. To gain wisdom, I must turn off the auto-pilot and live my life through intention. It is not enough for me to bake a cake and not eat a slice. I want to be able to enjoy a big, giant piece of ooey-gooey chocolate cake with my mom’s peanut butter icing…yum! I can’t do that if I’m afraid that eating one slice will lead to two slices or that I am a weak person because I am craving some sugar today. I must gain the wisdom and understanding to know what is behind the fear, and yes, learn the techniques that will allow me to bake my cake and eat it too. I must leave my old thought patterns behind and step into who I need to become to be comfortable eating whatever size slice of cake I want at that moment. It is the wisdom that will allow me to experiment and enter the new territories and look at that cake with love and enjoyment instead control and longing. Today, I will practice wisdom by experimenting with my all or nothing pattern and remember that it is this or that.
Let me know if you want the recipe for my mom’s chocolate cake with peanut butter icing. I’d be happy to send it to you. She made it every year for my birthday and I still carry on the tradition!